Everyone has at least one baggage to bring with them from time to time. Some have more. It depends on how much you have gone through in your life. Or spefically, how much you have come to deal with your problems and fixed them. The unsolved problems will always remain unsolved and eventually become one's emotional baggage.
They say before you decide to let someone conquer your heart, you have to find out what their baggages are. The family baggage, the ex baggage, the love baggage, you name it. All these baggages are detrimental in one way or the other to your future relationship. Only then you decide if you will be capable to walk down the aisle with them together with their baggages. There is no way to get rid of it but to embrace it. Different people have different tolerance and you will just have to find out your own.
I was on the phone with my friend Paul the other day where he told me about this guy he is recently seeing. The guy is great, both physically and emotionally. Paul was feeling doubtful over the exitence of such gorgeous guy he decided to start digging and prying.
Ugly truths are like oil buried deep down the earth. The more you dig, the more it will flow to the surface. So overwhelming that you regret digging in the first place.
The guy is used to dating several people at the same time. It's not difficult to tackle such problems. They all eventually come down to trust problem and insecurity.
Paul knows very well that such guy is never ready for a commited relationship. They are constantly looking for people just to feel secured that there is always someone out there waiting for them if they get out of the relationship. Maybe they are not confident, maybe they cant stand loneliness, or maybe their ego get the better of them. This kinda guy is the worst kinda guy to date.
How is a relationship going to work if you don't have faith in it?
They are not jerks. Playboys are not jerks. They are just a bunch of pathetic guys who need to regain their confidence and have a little more faith in the society. I feel sorry for them because they are incapable of falling in love. Paul said. and I couldn't agree more.
I coulnd't help but wonder, what is my baggage? Family baggage? Probably not; the ex baggage? I don't think so. Trust Baggage? maybe but not likely.
"You hate routine! that's your baggage" one of my friends told me. So harsh yet so vivid.
What is your baggage?
They say before you decide to let someone conquer your heart, you have to find out what their baggages are. The family baggage, the ex baggage, the love baggage, you name it. All these baggages are detrimental in one way or the other to your future relationship. Only then you decide if you will be capable to walk down the aisle with them together with their baggages. There is no way to get rid of it but to embrace it. Different people have different tolerance and you will just have to find out your own.
I was on the phone with my friend Paul the other day where he told me about this guy he is recently seeing. The guy is great, both physically and emotionally. Paul was feeling doubtful over the exitence of such gorgeous guy he decided to start digging and prying.
Ugly truths are like oil buried deep down the earth. The more you dig, the more it will flow to the surface. So overwhelming that you regret digging in the first place.
The guy is used to dating several people at the same time. It's not difficult to tackle such problems. They all eventually come down to trust problem and insecurity.
Paul knows very well that such guy is never ready for a commited relationship. They are constantly looking for people just to feel secured that there is always someone out there waiting for them if they get out of the relationship. Maybe they are not confident, maybe they cant stand loneliness, or maybe their ego get the better of them. This kinda guy is the worst kinda guy to date.
How is a relationship going to work if you don't have faith in it?
They are not jerks. Playboys are not jerks. They are just a bunch of pathetic guys who need to regain their confidence and have a little more faith in the society. I feel sorry for them because they are incapable of falling in love. Paul said. and I couldn't agree more.
I coulnd't help but wonder, what is my baggage? Family baggage? Probably not; the ex baggage? I don't think so. Trust Baggage? maybe but not likely.
"You hate routine! that's your baggage" one of my friends told me. So harsh yet so vivid.
What is your baggage?
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